Table for 3: Me, Myself, & My Emotions

Written by: DeJuan

As a man, I’m expected to be masculine, tough, and insensitive. However, the second we begin to show my emotions, those characteristics I mentioned are questioned. This post was inspired by two people, one of which is my dear colleague Mz. Simply Stylez. In her March 3rd blog post she wrote:

“The conversation made me re-realize that men are sensitive as fuck. How am I looking to a creature more sensitive than me for strength? I mean, no woman wants a man that is emotionless, however a lot of men harbor shit from past relationships, and then build all kinds of safe guards to protect their feelings, well, I guess women do the same thing, but what’s funny to me, is, I never really believe when a man is hurting because they are made out to be so MACHO and MASCULINE lol.” (Used by permission from: http://www.simplystylez.com/blog/?p=2031)

In response, if a male hides his emotions from you it could be a combination of quite a few things – albeit past relationships, family problems, etc. Being in a relationship requires a level of vulnerability people are not used to. Being vulnerable with your better half proves you trust them with your feelings, and in some cases, the secrets nobody else knows.

Pay no mind to Diddy and his “Bitchassness” campaign when I begin to display my emotions. When I was at the restaurant and approached you, I wasn’t alone – me, myself, and my emotions were also present. You just didn’t see them. As a man who has no problem showing his emotions, understand that when I do so I am giving you all of me. It’s the type of transparency women have publicly talked about for years. Again, I’m only one man and cannot make excuses for the rest of my gender. Ladies, if you’re interested to see if the guy you’re dating is honest with his emotions, try him out. I cannot promise or make any guarantee as to how he will act, however if he is honest and open with his emotions, it’s obvious he trusts you.

Even Ja Rule rapped, “When I cry, you cry, we cry together.” Reaching that point of vulnerability shouldn’t be rushed. Take your time; you’ll be glad you did.

P.S. Thanks Mz. Stylez and K.B. for the inspiration. You are appreciated.

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