Southern California is one of the nicest places to live in the United States – and I’m not just saying that because I’m from here. But the last couple of weeks have been a true testament to the tolerance I have for stormy weather. Rain has drenched Southern California the past few days and the temperatures have been quite low – the perfect weather for cuddling. Make some hot chocolate for you and your significant other, grab a few DVDs, have some popcorn, and cuddle up in the bed or on the couch and enjoy the evening. Sounds like an enjoyable night, right?
I was browsing Twitter a few days ago and a tweet from @Candyann caught my eyes. She wrote, “Hate the word cuddle. Hate when men say it even more. That word is soft as Charmin tissue!” Immediately I was on the defense for why men should be allowed to say it and why it’s not a terrible word for a man to see. She did, however, make it clear to me that cuddling isn’t bad, but the word itself makes her uneasy. We debated for a while and attempted to come up with a cuddling alternative for men – that term – “lay up with you.” I objected. I went to female friends of mine and asked them how they feel when men ask them to cuddle and how they would feel if a guy asked them, “Hey can I lay up with you.” The common answer I heard was, “lay up with me sounds like you just want to have sex with me.” I agreed.
The word “cuddle” is understood by all parties involved when used, therefore making it effective. I don’t think my masculinity or sexuality is in jeopardy if I say “cuddle”. It’s important that a woman knows I want to spend time with her by being intimate and relax. Telling her I want to cuddle with her tonight – she already knows what the deal is.
Furthermore, I do not think saying is a threat against my masculinity or sexuality. Neither have I met a woman who is uncomfortable with her man saying the word. Again I say the weather is perfect for cuddling right now. I have plenty of DVDs, popcorn, and hot chocolate – so which one of you beautiful ladies would like to cuddle? Just me and you.
I think it depends who it comes from. I’m picturing different men saying it and it doesn’t bother me from the ones I know aren’t soft as Charmin BUT….yeah, from some I’d give the *bbm talk to the hand*
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